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It’s that time of the year, friend where we begin setting our new year’s resolutions that we seem to give up on by April. I too am guilty of this but the thing about setting goals and forgetting about them is that it will only set you up for another failed year.
WE WILL NOT BE DOING THAT OVER HERE THIS YEAR!
What I had to learn is that setting goals alone is not enough. Goals MUST be given feet.
Yes, feet! That means that you will have to put them into action AND pay careful attention to whether or not you are achieving the goals that you set for yourself. To help encourage you (and myself) to set goals and see them come to life, I will be sharing some tips and my own special strategy that I’m currently using to plan out the next ten years of my life.
Yes, you read it correctly…TEN YEARS of my life are already planned out! Now I know you didn’t think that I, the life coach and mental health advocate, would neglect to follow my own advice, did you?
Of course I do! In fact, in August 2022 I began getting this incredible urge to go buy a real life planner. I searched everywhere for one and finally found one at a local store. Not long after purchasing that planner, I got asked to speak at a national conference and two community events. I also had an influx of clients the remainder of that year.
Are you ready? Let’s go!
What are goals?
Goals are objectives or targets that individuals or organizations set for themselves to achieve. They can be short-term or long-term, and can be related to personal, spiritual or professional development.
When setting goals, it’s important to be specific and realistic. A goal should be something that is achievable, but also challenging. It should also be measurable, so that progress can be tracked and success can be celebrated.
What Are SMART Goals?
It’s also important to have a plan in place for achieving your goals. This can include breaking down large goals into smaller, more manageable tasks, setting deadlines, and finding ways to hold yourself accountable. It’s also important to be flexible and adapt your plan as needed if obstacles arise.
One popular method for setting goals is the SMART format: Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound. Using this method, a goal should be specific enough that it clearly states what needs to be accomplished. It should be measurable in order to track progress, it should be achievable, it should be relevant to the person or organization’s overall mission or vision, and it should have a specific time-frame for completion.
Why setting goals are important
Setting goals is a vital part of the process needed for one to reach their full potential, achieve success and walk in their life’s purpose. No matter how skilled and talented you are, you will have a hard time seeing the fruit of your talent or skill if there is not a proper plan in place to see them come to life. Here are some other benefits of setting goals:
- Setting goals helps us make the best use of certain times and seasons in our life.
- Setting goals helps us feel more secure about our life.
- Setting goals helps us to quickly identify resources that’s needed without over thinking.
- Setting goals helps us to be aware of distractions that are against the plan.
And these are just a few. What are some other benefits of setting goals? Leave us a comment and let us know. What stops people from setting goals?
Setting goals forces you to dream BIG
One important aspect of setting goals that is often overlooked is that one MUST have the ability to allow yourself to dream BIG! Good goals are created when you allow yourself the freedom to DREAM BIG!
This can be hard to do if you have unhealed mental and emotional wounds or if you are recovering from past trauma. Learn more about the impact of trauma and some steps you can take to begin the healing process. Trauma that is unhealed can sometimes manifest as physical symptoms inside your body. The Body Keeps Score is an excellent read on the impact of trauma on your mind and body.
Learn more about trauma and its impact on healthy boundaries in How Trauma Impacts Setting Healthy Boundaries. You can also find our more about how going through toxic relationships or having a negative experience in a relationship effects on future relationship in Relationship Trauma and Its Effects on Relationships.
Setting goals forces you to see yourself in a positive way.
Another thing that hinders people from setting goals is lack of confidence. People that struggle with self esteem issues may see themselves as an inconvenience or unimportant and therefore, may not see the point of setting life goals. My video training titled, Move Past Hurt is the ideal training for identifying those areas of hurt are keeping you stuck, struggling with confidence and repeating negative cycles year-after-year.
In this training you will find out how to:
- identify areas of pain that are keeping you stuck
- challenge old hurts and confront them head on
- learn the value of forgiveness— forgiving yourself and others!
- release the pain and break up with hurt for good!
Setting goals forces you to look for future opportunities
Having the right mindset is important when setting goals. A growth mindset sees life as an opportunity to grow, mature and overcome problems. When a person with a growth mindset encounters problems, they immediately begin looking for solutions.
In contrast, a fixed mindset limits one from seeing solutions. Therefore, when a person with a fixed mindset encounters a problem or comes to a roadblock in their life, they may view challenges as a personal attack or a sign that you should stop and give up.
The Legacy Builder Framework
There are many different types of goals. The types of goals that you choose to set will depend on three things: who you are, where you want to go and what is needed to get you there. Our goal-setting framework is specifically crafted for individuals who believe that they can have it all–a career, family and live a fulfilling life.
Our framework relies heavily on crafting your future with the end in mind. We believe that each one of us has a purpose and that our ONE job on this Earth (ok, maybe two), is to walk out that purpose and to build a legacy that will outlive you.
Our framework also focuses on maintaining priorities rather than obtaining balance (we will talk more about that in a future post). It is modeled after a combination of two theories: Systems Theory and Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. We believe that there is an order to setting up goals in your life and that it is vital to set the right foundation first and build from there.
In conclusion, setting goals is an important part of personal and professional development. Goals help us to focus our efforts and stay motivated. By using the SMART method, we can set specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound goals that will lead us to success. Remember, setting goals is only the first step— the consistent and persistent efforts that will take us where we are trying to go.
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